The female has two separate indetities:The Mother and the Woman

Every Mother knows - there was a life before and there is a life now. There was You before and there is You now. Who was that woman before she gave birth to me - your child might wonder one day. A beautiful emotional story it may lead to. Griefing old you being such an essential  element of a Motherhood journey, merits proper time and space. Yet some of us might get stuck craving and waiting for « things to get back to normal ». They won’t. The sooner we find courage and grace within to honour this transition from Maiden to Mother, the sooner we start walking towards inner peace and the beauty of acceptance. Acceptance that motherhood is for Life. There is no going back. 

No « open hours » for mothering. It is FOR LIFE. Let it soak. 

It’s important to grief, truly, deeply, sobbing it through… but then it’s also important to embrace the new you, without waiting for the things to get back to normal. Rather stepping fully in this role you now carry for life with natural curiosity, peeling off layer by layer straight into the depths this Motherland has to offer. Who is this new identity?